Clinical EFT Practitioner & Confidence Coach
EFT was my saviour! I’m impatient you see; I like fast results, or I get bored, Tapping works FAST! I saw and felt changes right from my 1st session.
As I worked through my ‘stuff’ peeling back the layers of hurt and stuck emotions I realised that I’d got rejection and abandonment issues!?
Once the realisation settled in, it was clear as day. I’d got this fear running through EVERY aspect of my life. Romantic, Family, Friendships, Work, everything!
Following the breadcrumbs given to me by Tapping, it led me back to my conception, this all started in the womb! Before you roll your eyes and leave, I know, I didn’t believe it at first, but I kept going with it, and as I went on, it all made perfect sense.
I was a surprise baby you see, a major unwanted shock to an unmarried woman in 1972. So instead of joy and happiness there was disbelief, fear, shame and “I don’t want this baby”.
Being conceived in 1972, it wasn't acceptable to be unmarried & pregnant. My poor mom, so lots of, fear, shame & shock was directed straight at me in those first weeks.
Mom & Dad got married within weeks, but it was too late, the belief was there, stuck. The fear & expectation of rejection followed me throughout the next 45yrs of life.
This original belief and fear from conception was then re-enforced by my brother and sister coming along and me no longer being the centre of attention, being constantly bullied & abandoned at primary school. Strict parents, telling me if I didn't behave, I’d be thrown out the house or taken to the Care Home.
So, I learned to please the caregivers and bullies so I wouldn't be rejected or abandoned. They’d love me & take care of me if I did everything to keep them on side – right?
I’m painting my childhood to be terrible; it wasn’t, I was loved, clothed, fed & cared for. I had a good start in life. You can still pick this stuff up in a happy home.
But to a small child who is totally dependent on the whim of others it can feel like life or death – & for some it is.
We’re programmed for survival so if we PERCIEVE danger no matter how small we do what we can to stay alive. - I became a PEOPLE PLEASER
How I Moved On
I "tap" almost daily, just 10 minutes. I’ve a kind curiosity about how I feel. I’m thankful for my emotions, they help me understand myself better. I don’t run from them anymore. It’s scary at first, but that goes away eventually.
I make tweaks every day so become a slightly different person each day.
I’ve trained myself not to be a victim, I choose whether I have a good or bad day, thought or reaction.
It’s because of my consistency in Tapping, being aware, keeping promises to myself, meditating when I can, as well as creating micro habits for change that I’m growing into the person I want be, with the life I want to live.
I’m not going to give you false promises, it takes focus and consistency. You need to commit to a few minutes each day, you need to put some effort in.
You also need to be brave by putting myself higher up the priority list. I’ve had serious emotional blackmail guilt trips from friends & family because I’m not longer freely available to them - you can Tap right through this.
It’s not always easy but I owe it to myself to be true to my feelings & my needs & not feel guilty or selfish about it. I only get 1 life; it would be a crying shame to waste it any longer.
You are only responsible for YOU (little kids excepted).
So, if you’re ready to stop quitting & start committing I’m here for you.