Emotions  v Thoughts

Why our emotions control the show not our thoughts

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Now, if you know me, you'll know I’m a 100% believer in 'Your thoughts create your reality".   


I’ve done a tremendous amount of self-work and work with others in changing thought patterns from negative to positive and seen lives transform as a result.   


What you think eventually becomes your personality, this then creates who you are or will become..... and ultimately how your future life will unfold.

The secret is to change your thoughts, but first you need to acknowledge and accept your emotions.  Stop pushing them down, ignoring them or denying they exist.  It’s these suckers that trigger and create the thoughts in your head.


To change your thoughts, first you must control your emotions.

Hang fire with me on this

Think back to the last time you had an emotional response to something – anger, disappointment, embarrassment, whatever.  


How long was it between the thing happening and you feeling this emotion? Instantaneous wasn’t it?  You had zero conscious control.


That’s because emotions are controlled by the part of the brain whose sole purpose is to keep you safe whenever it has the slightest whiff that you’re in danger.   


It makes no difference if in reality it’s total hogwash.  Its motto is better to be safe than sorry - there's gonna be no injury or death on my watch!!

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Now, the conscious brain knows full well you’re not in danger, so it would, IF it were in charge have kept you calm, relaxed and rational.


No sireee, instead, the subconscious’s siren is set off, activating your fear centre, all these emotions fill you up, you can’t think straight, and BOOM your slap bang in the middle of FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE or FAWN!


You’re probably going to get

  • Defensive, angry and go on the attack

  • Frightened, shrink into your shell and back down

  • Scared, shocked, and shut down

  • People pleasing

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Does this sound familiar?

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It’s now that you’re in a state of feeling and fear that your mind starts to create thoughts based on how you're feeling. 

If you're feeling a certain way, then it's true and REAL.  You've actual evidence – you’re feeling it right now!   


Such as:

  • People are always attacking me and having a go at me

  • Nothing ever goes right for me

  • Why do I always attract selfish arseholes (i.e. narcissists)

  • I’m always getting pushed around

  • Nothing ever goes right

  • People are mad with me when I say No.

The more it happens, the more you confirm the thoughts, soon they're deeply embedded.  You can't remember it ever being different.


It becomes part of your personality - the negative Nancy "Nothing every goes right for me" story on repeat.

Once this pattern has been established the brain then goes into it’s other favourite mode – “I’m always right”

OK, so, you’ve got this negative belief, you’ve felt bad about it a couple of times, so it’s definitely real.

You’re now ready for the not so hard work of really embedding it in and making it ‘Your Story” - and owning it big time!   

Because the brain loves being right (who doesn’t!) it goes on the hunt, looking for every single instance throughout your day to prove it - and it never stops!!.


Oh, and in true know-it-all style, it conveniently ignores all the things that don’t confirm the belief!!

Madness isn't it - but it's true!

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How do you stop it?

Easy ... you use EFT and Tap It Away!! 


EFT is available as part of one of my coaching programs or on it's own in session packages

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